I have not been very productive with my health aspect this week. After the shock of a tree falling through my house wore off I had a heap of emotions to deal with. I feel like I have been backed into a corner and now I have to commute 1 hour to class (which is not terrible, but compared to my 5 minute walk its a whole lot worse). I have been trying to focus on identifying what I am feeling and working through it, but I can feel myself shutting down due to all the stress. I was only able to make it to the gym once this week and I have been eating terribly. I keep trying to remind myself to make better decisions when it comes to what I’m putting in my body and make time for the gym, but it has not been easy.
When it is time to eat I find myself bouncing between a healthy meal or unhealthy meal, and I have noticed, with my mood lately I have been choosing the unhealthy option because it is comforting. I have been trying to change my mindset and get back on track with my healthy eating, but it is easier said than done.
This chapter was not an easy one for me to read, because the part about relationships is all too real. I have been in an unhealthy relationship for about 6 months now and it has taken me a while to come to terms with the fact that it is not a healthy situation for me to be in. As a woman, I watch out for red flags in every relationship I come into because it is so easy to fall into an abusive relationship. My relationship was not abusive, but we were not healthy for each other. According to Sternberg’s theory of love, we had a romantic love type of relationship. This kind of love does not often last because it contains passion and intimacy, but is missing the crucial third part, commitment. After reading the chapter and using what I learned to analyze my relationship, I have realized quite a few things. First off I was very bad with communication and that caused him to get jealous. We both had our faults, but this chapter showed me a few ways to cope with my failed relationship. Two pieces of advice that I really liked were “Acknowledge that you’ve gone through a rough spot” (Donatelle ,2019, p.85) and “Let go of negative thought patterns and habits and engage is activities that make you happy” (Donatelle, 2019, p.85). It is very important to acknowledge your emotions and validate what you have gone through and then learn to change those emotions into positive ones by doing things that make you happy. These are not easy things to do, but they are things that I need to work on in order to progress on my health aspect as well as other goals that I have.
At the end of the chapter, Donatelle touches on Alcohol, Drugs and Sex. There is a section on date rape drugs that I would like to touch upon. The book talks about how roofies have become prevalent on college campuses, but fails to mention that these drugs are everywhere and it is not only women that need to be aware of the epidemic. My older brother lives in Chicago and got roofied at one of his favorite bars about a year ago. He went to this bar every week so he felt very safe there, until one night he woke up in an ambulance on the way to the hospital because he had high levels of rohypnol in his system. He was lucky that he was with a bunch of his friends at the time, or else who knows what could have happened? I think it is important to explain that, YES, women need to watch out for date rape drugs, but so do men. Anyone could find themselves in trouble so we need to watch out for ourselves and our friends.
I find the term androgyny very interesting because it is something I have never heard before reading about it. Basically “androgyny refers to the combination of traditional masculine and feminine traits in a single person” (Donatelle, 2019, p.86). I find it interesting because I find it hard to believe that anyone is not androgynous. It is 2020 ladies and gentlemen, I am a female with a handful of masculine traits, I do a bit of both traditional gender roles and most other people do too. I also know many men who possess feminine traits and I just find it kind of weird that there is a term for it when it applies to everyone.
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